Hot mom seeks Advice

 "My 18-year-old stepson recently had two friends over. They were outside smoking in the yard while I was upstairs with my window slightly open. I could hear their conversation, but they didn’t know that.

I overheard his friends teasing him about me, asking him what he liked most about me. To my horror, he answered, ‘my breasts.’ They went on with some other crude comments, and I felt mortified.

Once his friends left, I confronted him about what I heard. He apologized immediately, saying I was never supposed to hear any of that.

I’m still annoyed by what he said, though. Do you think I handled the situation well?"

My Take:

Ah, welcome to the joys of teenage boy humor. Let’s break this down because, trust me, this situation is as much about biology and awkward social dynamics as anything else.

First, yes, what you overheard was crude and uncomfortable. Teenage boys—and let’s be honest, grown men too—tend to push the boundaries when they’re with their buddies. It’s their weird, sometimes gross, way of trying to prove their manhood. Your stepson’s response? Unfortunately, typical.

Now, the fact that he apologized right away tells me he knows he crossed a line. That’s good—it shows he’s capable of reflection and taking accountability. But here’s the kicker: his friends will likely keep bringing it up. Why? Because having an attractive stepmom is prime material for teasing in their teenage-boy world.

How to Handle It Going Forward:

  1. Take It as a Backhanded Compliment (Sort Of):

    • Yes, it’s uncomfortable, but the fact that his friends noticed means you’re rocking it. Own it. Let your stepson deal with the fallout, because honestly, that’s his to manage.

  2. Use Humor to Defuse Awkwardness:

    • The next time his friends are over, make a light joke. Something like, “Glad to see you all survived your last visit,” said with a smile. This lets them know you’re aware without making it a big deal.

  3. Help Him Navigate the Teasing:

    • Encourage him to handle his friends’ comments with humor instead of aggression. For example, he can say, “Yeah, she’s awesome. Now can we talk about your crush on Mrs. Johnson?” Humor wins over violence every time.

What You Did Right:

  • You confronted him calmly.
  • You made it clear you didn’t appreciate the comments.

If you’re still annoyed, that’s normal. But don’t let it fester—it was a moment of immaturity, not malice.

What to Avoid:

  • Don’t make it a bigger deal than it already is. Teenage boys aren’t known for their tact, and this isn’t something he’ll likely repeat if he values his life.

Helpful Resources:

  1. "The Teenage Brain" by Frances E. Jensen – A great read to understand the madness that is the teenage male mind. Available on Amazon.
  2. Stepfamily Support Network – A helpful site for navigating blended family dynamics.

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